“Do you feel lucky?
Believe it or not, the way that you answer that question is a predictor of your level of success and joy in life. Dr. Richard Wiseman, head of psychology research at the University of Hertfordshire in England, was curious about people who are consistently blessed with good fortune. For eight years he studied 400 people who considered themselves either particularly lucky or unlucky. As a result, he has proved scientifically that luck isn’t a coincidence. Lucky people think and act with specific behaviors that open the way for good things to happen. They expected success, moving beyond the “glass-half-full” power of positive thinking. They are skilled at noticing and more open to new possibilities.
Fortune often emerges from the ashes of a problem. During the acceptance speech for his first of thirteen Grammy awards, Duke Ellington said “I merely took the energy it takes to pout, and wrote some blues.” Wiseman’s findings agree. Lucky people have automatic psychological techniques to cope and thrive in unfavorable situations. Besides openness to external cues, lucky people also listen and act upon their gut instincts.”
Again, an old article I found in my previous blog.
Nowadays, there are lots of self-improvement books such as Secrets and Law of Attraction to stress on the advantages of positive thinking. Somehow, to practice staying optimistic in real life is always easier to be say than done.
“Just put yourself in my shoes, can you still keep yourself staying optimistic when you are having a hard times and feeling stuck in your life?” was a frequently asked question by most people.
When we feel stuck in our life, it’s important to take stock of what is going on and find out the causes that keeping us stuck. Sometimes the situation is out of our control, and we need to look within to find the patience required to wait with equanimity until things move forward again. Very often, we will find the source of our stagnation in our own minds and hearts. The fear of changes is always the reason that keeping us stuck as humans always prefer to stay in their own comfort zones and always afraid of changes.
We just have to think out of the box, think of it as part of the process, a necessary step on our lives journey, rather than as a problem that shouldn’t be happening in our life when we feel stuck. This will give us the space we need to take a deep breath and figure out what’s going on. Hence, our minds will be more open to new possibilities to happen.